“I don't know what I think until I write it down.” – Joan Didion, American Author
What Didion once said is absolutely true of me, a mama and former Manhattan Mad Woman-turned-writer, communications consultant and aspiring photographer. I find clarity in expressing myself and my experience through writing.
Every woman has a journey. A moment (plural, sometimes) where she finds herself face down in the arena, as Brené Brown puts it. I say, 'face down in the ashes.' Either way, it's the moment when you pick yourself up, shake your head, and look around wondering, "What just happened? And did it really just happen to me?"
But women, every single one of us, are resilient. We rise and fall in some of the most unexpected, and often undesirable, ways in order to grow into stronger, more compassionate and loving, patient people. Wounds sometimes heal us.
I found myself face-down-in-the-ashes after the love of my life betrayed me and our commitment to one another, revealing fundamental differences in values and priorities that needed to be addressed.
Once I let go, I began to rise. I am emerging on the other side a wiser, stronger, more focused and more powerful woman than before. This blog captures that journey.
I choose to view the next chapter of my life as an opportunity to design a life I love. It requires swallowing my pride to ask for, and accept, a lot of help with a grateful and humble heart. It also requires steps to the side and steps backwards, in order to push forward and grow.
Rising from the ashes is not a direct ascent; there are detours and roadblocks and broken wings. But as long as we resilient women continue to pick ourselves up and climb, we are always ascending.
The purpose of Phoenix Mom Rising is to connect with fellow mamas and other women along their paths, whether they are face down in the ashes or wings spread on the rise. Let each of us — wherever we are along the path — employ empathy to empower and encourage each other.
Rising from the ashes as stronger, happier, healthier mother and woman than ever seemed possible is the definition of a Phoenix Mom Rising.